Wants and Needs

I was thinking just the other day about how much our life will change with our little baby arriving in about five to six weeks from now. This is a HUGE change for us, for Dan and for me, yet it is getting to be exciting for me. I hope for Dan too.

Becoming a mother is something that I have always wanted to do. To have a family and rear child to be like the children that I use to babysit for. It has just always been a dream. Now it will be coming true sooner than later..yet at a later stage in life of me. I am sooo happy that it has take so long for this to happen. I can not even think of my life in my thirties with a child. My thirties was such a growing and establishing time for me. I got so much done and out of me, that it only seems appropriate that God has given me this child in my forties.....perfect timing.

So this change. What will it bring? who knows, but I was making a list in my mind the other day at work tyring to get through the day of my "wants" and then something turned into my "needs"..

So here are a few of my "Wants"....
A beautiful Gucci Bag and Gucci shoes.....
*reality: I have two beautiful Louis bags, and I never wear heals. Dan is shorter than me and I am like 6'3 in heals...
A three bedroom home in a neighborhood that is kid friendly and has a pool....
*reality: Could happen some day, but the expense will be riveting. Really I think I am hunting for more room to put stuff.I have things jammed every which way in this small home just to make it fit. Maybe I should just get rid of stuff.
A new car for my husband.....
*Again a possibility but at the moment we have no car payments and it is so nice to have one less bill to worry about.
To move to Italy and raise Joey there for a few years...
*Ummm yeah what could the chances of that be.
For my husband to make more money so I can stay at home and raise my son like other mom's do.
*umm if Dan had a job making more money, then I would never see him and he would never spend any time with his son. We have a beautiful marriage, relationship and friendship. I can never ask him to give his family up for more money...

So these are a few of the "wants" in my life.

Then I thought of the "needs"....
(pause)........(long pause)...

See exactly that. There really is not anything I need. I need to be settled with the beauty I have in my life. I Need God as the center, I Need my family, I Need peace and I have all that. I Need continued relationships that are positive and loving and drama free. I have that too.

It really came down to this I have all I need. It has been provided for me already. I spend time with people who are constantly chasing the things they want and then when they have them it's never good enough and they are never happy. Dan and I work hard and have a very simple easy life. We don't own grand things nor do we even want them. we center our life with each other and love to those around us. God plays a huge part in our life. And when you think of it.. once you get what you WANT... does it satisfy you or are you done with it and start to want something else? are you grateful for your Wants? When you get the Needs....how do you feel? I know how I feel when the Need is filled...

Think about your Wants and your Needs and see where you stand on the scale of selfish and the easy way out stuff. It's a cycle that is hard to grasp and in a life that will change for us, keeping our wants..only wants and needs only needs has been hard, but we are figuring it out and hope that we can continue to figure it out when Joey arrives...

there is a BIG difference between the Wants and the Needs....